Losing a pet can cut deeper than many people realize
Recognize that feeling awful is normal
For some grieving owners, pet loss can feel worse than a human death. That doesn’t make them monsters. Instead, it reflects the potential depths of human-animal bonds. A pet is often more than just a pet; it’s a companion, a friend, and a member of the family. Losing that bond can be devastating.
Offer a sympathetic ear
People who haven’t experienced pet love may struggle to understand what it’s like to lose it. They may think they are being helpful by saying, "It was just an animal," or "They were lucky to have such a loving owner." But pat phrases, no matter how well-meaning, can make grieving owners clam up and feel alone. Instead, offer a sympathetic ear and let them talk about their feelings without interrupting or offering unsolicited advice.
Bonds can run deep with any kind of animal
Don’t assume that an owner’s grief is commensurate with the size or type of animal they lost, or the length of time they had them. The death of a pet lizard, for example, can be as painful for some people as losing the cutest of fur balls for others. It’s essential to recognize that the depth of the bond between humans and animals can vary greatly, and it’s okay to grieve the loss of a pet, regardless of its size or type.
Guilt often compounds pet loss
Up to 30,000 people contact Blue Cross each year for pet-loss support. Many aren’t simply sad but also are fearful that they may somehow have been responsible for their animal’s death or disappearance. Guilt is a natural part of the grieving process, and it’s essential to acknowledge it. Recognize that guilt is a normal part of the process and that it’s okay to feel it.
Can a new pet help?
Possibly. But it’s not a magic bullet. Each animal has its own personality and a new one won’t necessarily fill the void left by another. And if your previous pet was full-grown, you may no longer have the patience for kittens’ litters or puppy-training again. Grieving can’t be truncated, and the sadness and memories can be lasting.
Conclusion
Losing a pet is a significant loss, and it’s essential to acknowledge the depth of the bond between humans and animals. By offering a sympathetic ear, recognizing the depth of the bond, and acknowledging guilt, we can better support those who are grieving the loss of a pet. Remember, it’s okay to grieve, and it’s essential to find ways to cope with the loss.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: How can I support a friend who is grieving the loss of a pet?
A: Offer a sympathetic ear and let them talk about their feelings without interrupting or offering unsolicited advice.
Q: Why do people grieve the loss of a pet so deeply?
A: Pets are often more than just animals; they’re companions, friends, and members of the family. Losing that bond can be devastating.
Q: Can I get another pet to fill the void left by my previous pet?
A: It’s not a magic bullet, and each animal has its own personality. Grieving can’t be truncated, and the sadness and memories can be lasting.
