Banishing Your Inner Perfectionist: Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday Season
Let Go of the "Shoulds"
As the holiday season approaches, many of us are reminded of the stressors that come with it: social obligations, family discord, political rifts, and financial stress. It’s easy to get caught up in the pressure to be perfect, but it’s essential to remember that it’s okay to let go of some of the "shoulds" and focus on what truly matters.
Focus on What Brings You Joy
According to Lynn F. Bufka, head of practice for the American Psychological Association, "Decide on the one thing that matters most, and the things that bring you the most joy, and let go of other things." Traditions can shift and change, and the more flexible things are, the easier it is for everyone.
Some Tips for a Stress-Free Holiday Season
- Throw Yourself into the Parts of the Holiday that Make You Happy: You could decide that conversation is your main goal, and not worry at all about the decor, says Bufka. Or if table decoration is what you love, spend your energy there and don’t worry as much about other aspects.
- Don’t Hesitate to Outsource Some of that Other Stuff: "People want to help — let them!" says Lauren Iannotti, editor-in-chief of Real Simple. "If you don’t LOVE cooking all those sides, or are strapped for time, there is zero shame in accepting your sister’s offer to do the stuffing. Or enlist help from the pros — support a local restaurant by ordering some catering platters."
- Give Yourself Permission to Cut Corners: "It’s OK if the house is a little messy or dinner is on the table a few minutes late," says Iannotti. "If the people you’ve invited are more interested in grading your performance than having a good time, they can take that up with their therapist to sort through."
- It’s OK to Step Away for Alone Time: Things will run well enough if you’re not overseeing it all, so take care of yourself. Take breathers or walks if that helps you stay centered.
Conclusion
By letting go of the "shoulds" and focusing on what brings you joy, you can have a more stress-free holiday season. Remember to prioritize your own needs, outsource when needed, and don’t be afraid to cut corners. And if all else fails, take a deep breath and remember that it’s okay to not be perfect.
FAQs
Q: What are some ways to prioritize my own needs during the holiday season?
A: Take breaks, practice self-care, and prioritize your own well-being.
Q: How can I outsource some of the holiday tasks?
A: Enlist help from family and friends, or consider hiring professionals to help with tasks like cooking or decorating.
Q: What if I’m feeling overwhelmed by the holiday season?
A: Take a step back, prioritize your own needs, and remember that it’s okay to not be perfect.
