After Madison Shooting, Experts Offer Tips on How to Speak to Children
Start with Support and Curiosity
Dr. Ramon Solhkhah, Chair of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at Endeavor Health, NorthShore, and Swedish Hospital, advises parents to start with support and curiosity when talking to their children about a school shooting. Allow your child to lead the conversation by asking how they feel and about any questions they might have.
Minimize Social Media and TV Use
Solhkhah also suggests minimizing social media and TV use, as it can feed into anxiety and worry. Instead, focus on your child’s normal routine and provide a sense of stability and normalcy.
Sleep Habits and Behaviors
Solhkhah notes that changes to sleep habits and behaviors that persist might be signs that something serious is going on. If you notice these changes, it’s essential to address them with your child and seek professional help if needed.
When to Talk to Your Child
So, how do you know if your child is old enough for this sort of conversation? Solhkhah believes that given the world we live in, there’s no such thing as the wrong age. Even preschoolers and kindergarteners are hearing about these things. He suggests approaching the conversation with language that is appropriate for the child.
Trust Your Gut
Solhkhah stresses that every child is unique, and parents should trust their gut when deciding how to approach the conversation. If you feel like your child is struggling, don’t hesitate to seek professional help.
Re-Traumatization
Solhkhah also notes that certain times of the year or celebrations can re-trigger trauma for both kids and adults. In the Chicago area, for example, some people experienced this during the Fourth of July in Highland Park after a mass shooting took place in 2022.
Resources for Parents and Caregivers
Both the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry and the American Academy of Pediatrics offer additional resources for parents and caregivers. If you’re struggling to talk to your child or if you’re concerned about their well-being, consider reaching out to a professional for guidance and support.
Conclusion
Talking to your child about a school shooting can be a challenging task, but it’s essential to approach the conversation with empathy, support, and understanding. By following these tips and seeking professional help when needed, you can help your child navigate this difficult topic and reduce their anxiety and worry.
FAQs
Q: How do I know if my child is old enough for this conversation?
A: Dr. Solhkhah believes that given the world we live in, there’s no such thing as the wrong age. Even preschoolers and kindergarteners are hearing about these things. Approach the conversation with language that is appropriate for the child.
Q: How can I minimize my child’s exposure to news and media?
A: Limit your child’s exposure to news and media, especially during times of crisis. Instead, focus on providing a sense of stability and normalcy.
Q: What if my child is experiencing persistent changes to their sleep habits or behaviors?
A: If you notice these changes, it’s essential to address them with your child and seek professional help if needed. Solhkhah notes that changes to sleep habits and behaviors that persist might be signs that something serious is going on.
